3 Steps You Must Take Once a Relationship Goes Bad

Once a relationship just isn’t working anymore, we can feel it in our gut. Most of us override that feeling with rationalizing and justifying why we should stay because we have already invested a tremendous amount of time, emotion and energy. These defense mechanisms come from fear. However, they can only delay the truth for so long, and then we must take that dreaded bite into reality and take the necessary steps to get out.
Here are seven steps to help you get out of an unfulfilling relationship:

1. Be clear on the reasons
Recount the number of times the same issues were brought up over and over again with no real movement from our partner to make the necessary changes. When we argue over the same issues again and again with no resolution, we can be sure this relationship is not the one we are looking for.

2. We must be prepared to discuss our reasons
In breaking up we will have to have yet another repetitive conversation regarding the unresolved issues which have been tearing the relationship apart, while being clear we are no longer willing to try, communicate or discuss these issues further. We do not have to expend energy proving ourselves. We simply have to state our decision.

3. Focus on the relationship, not the person
Just because the relationship didn’t work doesn’t mean there was something inherently wrong with our partner. It simply means the relationship itself fell grossly short of meeting our needs and we will no longer be in something that leaves us in an emotional drought. We no longer settle for less than we want or deserve.